You Know What’s Punk Rock About Marriage?

9 Apr

51tWJT1BYdL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_It would be almost be worth my (hypothetical) husband having an affair—maybe worth going through life with a name reminiscent of both “awful” and “offal”—if it meant I could go on to write a book as spectacular as Jenny Offill’s Dept. of Speculation.

A slim treatise on the maturation of a marriage, DOS is so compact as to be easily mistaken for simplistic. There is a husband and there is a wife, who are for all intents and purposes normal. They argue over groceries, money, chores. They have a daughter. They go to therapy (referred to as the “Little Theater of Hurt Feelings”). But don’t be fooled. DOS’s nameless female lead, who refers to herself as I, she or the wife depending on where in the couple’s emotional timeline we are, is one of the most interesting narrators I’ve stumbled across in recent memory. And the book’s unique format—short bursts of text that run the gamut from anecdotes to literary quotes to philosophical musings—belies its sophistication. The otherwise humdrum resonates on a much deeper level here.

Every blurb on my now well-worn paperback copy of Dept. of Speculation uses some adjective to describe the book’s seemingly tactile brilliance. Vanity Fair calls it dazzling. New Yorker: it glitters. Boston Globe: sparkling. New York Review of Books: shimmering. Without giving too much credence to back-of-book blurbage, I do think there’s something to be said for this particular theme of praise. Because DOS isn’t just beautifully written and interestingly crafted; it’s also multi-faceted, and manages to be poignant and funny and angry and bleak all at the same time. Each chapter, sometimes even each paragraph, captures life from a different angle, and the composite of those flashes of perspective is as important as each on its own.

Example:

I develop an abiding interest in emergency precautions. I try to enlist my husband’s help in this. I ask him to carry a pocketknife and a small flashlight in his backpack. Ideally, I’d like him to have one of those smoke hoods that doubles as a parachute. (If you are rich and scared enough you can buy one of these, I have read.) He thinks I have a morbid imagination. Nothing’s going to happen, he says. But I want him to make promises. I want him to promise that if something happens he won’t try to save people, that he’ll just get home as fast as he can. He looks shaken by this request, but still I monster on about it. Leave behind the office girl and the old lady and the fat man wheezing on the stairs. Come home, I tell him.

Example:

My husband comes into the bathroom, holding a hammer. He is talking, reciting a litany of households things. “I fixed the wobbly chair,” he tells me. “And I put a mat under the rug so that it won’t ride up again. The toilet needs a new washer though. It won’t stop running.” This is another way in which he is an admirable person. If he notices something is broken, he will try to fix it. He won’t just think about how unbearable it is that things keep breaking, that you can never fucking outrun entropy.

Example:

Sometimes I find myself having little conversations about marriage with the punk rock kids upstairs.

You know what’s punk rock about marriage?

Nothing.

You know what’s punk rock about marriage?

All the puke and shit and piss. 

Last year, during a brief tenure in a short-lived book club focused on unlikable female characters, I read Elena Ferrante’s The Days of Abandonment, a slim novel about a woman named Olga who gets dumped by her husband and descends into an aggressive depression. In many ways, DOA and DOS are strikingly similar, two sides of the same infidelity coin (where heads is getting left for a 20-something and tails is just finding out your husband slept with one).

But what The Day of Abandonment had in passion—in sheer unadulterated anger and hurt—DOS has in nuance. It’s not a book about discovering who you are without your spouse, but rather who you are with them. It’s a book that will resonate with anyone who’s been in a stable but monotonous relationship, with anyone who has questioned their professional and financial and geographical choices, with anyone who has warily stacked their life up against the life their younger self imagined they might have. Basically, it’s a book that will resonate with anyone.

TITLE: Dept. of Speculation
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AUTHOR: Jenny Offill
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PAGES: 177 (in paperback)
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ALSO WROTE: Last Things (& children’s books)
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SORTA LIKE: Elena Ferrante meets David Sedaris meets Tom Perrotta
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FIRST LINE: “Antelopes have 10x vision, you said. It was the beginning or close to it. That means that on a clear night they can see the rings of Saturn.”

12 Responses to “You Know What’s Punk Rock About Marriage?”

  1. Brittan April 10, 2015 at 7:34 am #

    It actually sounds a lot like /Where’d You Go, Bernadette/ by Maria Semple, especially considering the unconventional format.

    All of the reviews do indeed read like little quips from highly image-rich poetry. I’m always a little wary of books that are too invested in domestic life (I actually didn’t care for /Where’d You Go, Bernadette/ for this reason), but this sounds like a pleasant read :).

    • Kira Bindrim April 10, 2015 at 8:33 am #

      I’ve been seeing Where’d You Go, Bernadette at bookstores for years now and always mean to check it out. Now I will. Thanks!

  2. eliotcoburn April 10, 2015 at 10:12 am #

    Dept of Spec and Where’d You Go are very different books. “Domestic life” books can be a little fluffy, but any author admitting to ‘monstering on’ has my attention. Besides, any book that is smart is part of its own genre, and this one goes beyond entertainment; it addresses hard, sometimes unanswerable questions about the domestic predicament women, strike that, humans, cope with in western society.

  3. katedoublebooked April 12, 2015 at 10:13 am #

    Great review – I loved this book too. I thought it was so refreshingly honest. And thanks for the comparison with Elena Ferrante – she’s been on my radar for a while, but I must get round to reading her.

  4. psychology club April 13, 2015 at 2:50 pm #

    Can you some good detective story books which are available online.

    • psychology club April 13, 2015 at 2:52 pm #

      *suggest

      • Kira Bindrim April 13, 2015 at 3:49 pm #

        Not sure if you just mean available on Kindle, but I’m highly partial to Tana French (start with “In the Woods”) and Kate Atkinson (start with “Case Histories.”) If you want something a little grittier, go for Richard Price (Clockers, Lush Life) or Don Winslow.

        Happy reading!

      • psychology club April 14, 2015 at 12:48 pm #

        thank you.

  5. Lutheranliar April 13, 2015 at 3:38 pm #

    Wow. You had me at Elena Ferrante meets David Sedaris meets Tom Perrotta. Though I have not yet read Elena Ferrante, if she’s in the same sentence with Sedaris and Perrotta, she’s on my shelf.

    • Kira Bindrim April 13, 2015 at 8:23 pm #

      Fair warning: If Sedaris is funny observations of the quotidian, and Perrotta is poignant, Ferrante is kind of the dark troubled side. But still so very good.

      • Lutheranliar April 13, 2015 at 8:26 pm #

        But I really LIKE the ‘dark troubled side’. So eager to be sent there (!) What are you reading now? No. Wait, don’t tell me. I’ll (eagerly await) your next review.

  6. SeriousRachel April 16, 2015 at 7:52 pm #

    Great…my TBR list is now one book longer. Can’t wait to dive into this one!

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